Month: July 2013
What is sexually transmitted success? Well as the name suggests, its when an individual makes a success of their career by having sexual relations. In essence the success is transmitted by having sex with your boss. Now when it comes to this topic many people, women in particular are staunch believer that is it completely wrong and there is always another way to make it to the top. Women who sleep their way to the top or even just to keep their jobs are judged and looked down upon. Sex for success is a straight up NO NO and there is no room for understanding. These kind of sexual relations are degrading to women, and some have gone as far as equating it to prostitution (the politically correct term is sex work), because essentially what these people are doing is having sex so they can pay bills and stuff.
Now im not condoning the practice, but at times things are not as clear cut as we make them out to be and in theory women should not just give in to their superiors or whatever so that they can move up the ladder, but in practice things can be a bit more complicated. Its fair and fine to say that I would rather wait for the right time where i will get that position or job im that company. It is very commendable when a woman would rather stick to her values and not sleep with her sex craving chauvinist boss. But whilst you are sticking to your principles, how are you going to pay the rent, send your kids to school, pay for your grandmothers heart medication. Sure we can say I can always look for another job, but in all honesty that’s easier said than done in most cases. I know people who even with their university qualifications can remain unemployed for an indeterminable period of time. How will you make ends meet in the mean time?
There are times when a woman knows that she has earned a promotion within an organisation and no one else is better suited for the job. Sadly she works in a male dominated environment and her boss is a bit of a sexist pig and the board members who determine whether or not a person gets a promotion are dominantly sexist. Now the only way for her to reach her goal is to sleep with her boss. Sure she can report her case to a higher authority but she knows that whilst she is doing that, someone else can grab that promotion from right under her nose.
So what am I saying? There are some women who have chosen sex as the easiest way to succeed as there is not much hard work and hustle involved, but what they must note is that, the very person they have slept with will always hold it over their head, that they wouldn’t be where they are without them. Then there are women who genuinely feel that they have no choice but to be infected with sexually transmitted success. So before we judge people lets first find out where they are coming from and assist them in what ever way we can..
At a recent Food for Thought session at the American embassy a number of Zimbabwean artists raised a number of issues but the one that really caught my interest was that of what it means to be African. There are a number of answers to this question. I was quite baffled when a young lady raised the point that being African is the result of colonial times so we must not dwell too much on creating African Art because we are just emphasizing the label that colonizers gave us. If we then adhere to this school of thought that there no such a thing as an African, how then do we identify or recognize the people from Africa? Africa is too big and diverse a continent to just to leave undefined.
I will leave it up to you to decide.in conclusin i will leave you with the following link:
“I embrace my African heritage with unwavering sentiment; being African is a privilege, not a right; being African is not defined by race, gender, religion, geo-political boundaries or ethnicity but by philosophies and ideologies rich in morals, ethics and an African culture; in essence, being African is a state of mind; being African is about being what I call of ‘higher character’ and to lack this ‘higher character’ (African dictators for example) means you revoke your rights to being considered a son or daughter of the motherland; what is ‘higher character’ ?! Nobility, Purity and Strength is what contextualizes ‘higher character’ . Africa is a land of beauty, blessed with a beautiful people!”